Words Heal Me – Day 5: Walking with the difficult parts
Today you bring your healing words to the parts of you that hurt the most:
the scared, ashamed, angry, or lonely parts. The goal is not to fix them, but to stay with them kindly.
Why difficult parts need gentle words
Difficult parts of us often carry old pain or fear. When we speak harshly to them, they retreat, harden, or become louder.
When we speak with compassion, they sometimes soften, or at least feel less alone.
Today’s healing phrase
Today, you might use a phrase such as:
“This part of me is hurting – may I meet it kindly.”
or
“I see you, and I won’t turn away.”
Day 5 practice (10–15 minutes)
- Identify a part.
Think of a recent moment of strong emotion: shame, fear, anger, or despair.
Sense the part of you that feels this most intensely. - Name it gently.
For example: “There is a scared part here.” or “There is a very sad part here.” - Offer your phrase.
Speak slowly: “This part of me is hurting – may I meet it kindly.” - Hold steady.
If the part reacts (by pulling away, criticizing, or going numb), keep your tone soft and patient. - Close with gratitude.
Thank this part for showing itself, and thank yourself for staying.
Gentle reflection
- Which part of me showed up most clearly today?
- How did that part respond to gentle words?
- What might this part need from me going forward?
Related support
- Visit Self-talk for shame & self-criticism.
- Read Why freezing happens & how soft phrases help.
- Listen to “It all belongs in Love” meditation.
When you feel ready, move to Day 6: Letting love or warmth support you.
Ross