Welcome. Let’s take this slowly.

You don’t have to be “fixed” or “better” to belong here.
WordsHealMe.com is for real human beings who carry anxiety, pain, grief, and old wounds —
and who long to speak to themselves in a kinder way.

Healing self-talk does not mean pretending everything is okay.
It means learning to stay with what is true, with more compassion and less inner attack.

What is healing self-talk?

Healing self-talk is the practice of speaking to yourself with warmth, honesty, and support,
especially when you are struggling. It’s a way of becoming a kinder inner companion to your own heart.

Many of us learned to motivate ourselves with criticism or fear:
“What’s wrong with you?”, “Get over it.”, “You’ll never be enough.”
These phrases may feel normal, but they often deepen our suffering.

Healing self-talk gently changes that pattern. Instead of attacking yourself in hard moments,
you learn to say things like:
“This is really hard, and I’m not going to abandon myself.”

Over time, this kinder way of speaking can soften anxiety, ease shame, and help your nervous system feel safer.

A simple 3-step daily practice

You can begin with a very small practice, just a few minutes a day.
These three steps are enough to start:

1. Notice.
   Pause for a moment and gently ask: “What am I feeling right now?”
   You don’t have to dig deep. Just notice what stands out — anxiety, sadness, numbness, tiredness, or anything else.
2. Name.
   Put a simple name to your experience, without judging it:
   “There is anxiety.”
   “There is heaviness.”
   “There is tightness in my chest.”
3. Nurture.
   Offer one kind phrase to yourself, as if speaking to a dear friend:
   “I’m here with you.”
   “It’s okay to feel this.”
   “You don’t have to go through this alone.”

You can do this practice in the morning, at night, or whenever you notice you’re struggling.
Even one or two minutes of gentle self-talk can begin to change how you feel inside.

On the Self-Talk Practices page, you’ll find more phrases for specific situations like anxiety, pain, shame, and grief.

If you’re in deep pain right now

If you feel overwhelmed, frightened, or very alone, you may not have the energy for long practices.
You might just need a few words and a simple way to stay grounded.

1. Feel your body

If it feels safe, notice:

• Your feet on the floor or the bed.
• The weight of your body being supported by the chair, bed, or earth.
• One or two deeper breaths, without forcing anything.

2. Name what is here

You might quietly say:

• “There is a lot of pain here.”
• “There is fear here.”
• “There is a part of me that feels lost.”

3. Offer one simple phrase

When you are in deep pain, simple is best. You might repeat:

• “I am here with you.”
• “Breathe. Just this moment.”
• “One breath, one moment at a time.”

If tears, numbness, or strong emotions arise, you are not doing anything wrong. Your system is responding.
You can keep returning, gently, to the phrase and to your breath.

Important: These practices are meant to support you, not replace professional help.
If you feel you might harm yourself, or if your pain feels unbearable, please reach out to local emergency services or a crisis line in your area.

Where to go next

From this starting point, you can choose what feels right for you now:

• Explore Why Words Heal to understand how self-talk affects your nervous system and emotions.
• Visit Self-Talk Practices for phrases and rituals tailored to anxiety, pain, grief, and more.
• Begin a guided Healing Journey, such as the 7-day “Words Heal Me” program.
• Listen to gentle Audio & Meditations when you need a calm, supportive voice.

You don’t have to rush. Even one small step is enough for today.

Love is Everything — G. Ross Clark